Little Burgundy

Chapter 28: Sushi and Scruples

We made California Rolls Wednesday, which was super fun! I got home as just as Steven finished getting together all the ingredients, so I put together the rolls! Not a skill I had until I dated Steven. Actually, I just remembered how I learned to make sushi! Steven and I were friends, starting to maybe date? It was a confusing time. One day we stopped by his parents house to grab something and it was right at dinner time. His mom, dad and sister were all making themselves sushi and invited us to join. I really hadn't eaten sushi many times at this point, and wasn't sure if I liked it or not, so I was pretty uncomfortable. Steven just dove in though! I stood there awkwardly while everyone was busily making their own rolls. I had NO IDEA how to do it, and Steven must have been so hungry he didn't notice how confused I was. Finally Stevens mom explained what to do, and I set about slowly making a roll. It was pretty terribly constructed, and took me so long I got much less food than the others haha. It was so funny to remember that memory and how awkward and out of place I felt. It feels like a lifetime ago, and like Steven and I are completely different people than we were then! He is so loving and conscious of me. I'm much more blunt and straightforward with him, I just couldn't see that same situation arising these days.  

We had some friends over for a games night Friday night which was really nice. We made a few pizzas, and they brought icecream :) We played our favorite strange party game "scruples" The version we own is from 1986, and it definetly shows its age. Not in looks (its in pristine condition) but in content. The game is great for getting to know people better. You have an answer card in your hand and 5 question cards. You choose the question card to ask anyone playing, but you need them to give the answer that matches what is on the answer card in your hand (yes/no/depends). The questions are things like "if your son became a stripper, would you continue to let him live at home?" "the old lady selling you her house is asking for less than her house is worth, do you tell her?" or "you leave water running while staying at a friends house and flood the bathroom. Do you offer to help pay for repairs?"

It was funny to see what different people were comfortable with and what others weren't! The game doesn't sound nearly as fun as it is when you describe it, but trust me its awesome. I did hooooribly at it, but still had a lot of fun.

I had my first full Saturday off in like a month!

It was my favourite day of the week, because Steven and I got to spend all day together. We didn't do anything very interesting honestly, like we ran errands, went to the doctors office, stuff like that. But It was so nice to spend all day together.

Saturday evening was stake conference. They spoke mostly about how to make the Sabbath day a delight. My Sabbath is far from delightful these days, so That's what we will need to work on over the next weeks. We are toying with the idea of doing these posts Monday night rather than Sunday since we always end up staying up so late Sundays. We will see if this helps over the next few weeks or if we end up just forgetting to post haha. its a pretty real possibility!



Chapter 21: Its my birthday, I'll escape if I want to.

So. It was my birthday this week! My brother Ethan has been staying with us for the past little while and so he was here during my birthday which was awesome. Steven, Ethan and our friends Amber and Devin were cooking up a storm when I got home from work we had a lovely dinner! We had pesto and goat cheese stuffed chicken breasts, cesar salad, mashed sweet potatoes with marshmallows, and apple pie with ice cream! Steven had made sure it was all my favourite things, and I was in heaven. For those of you who haven't eaten many meals out with me, if there is something with goat cheese on the menu, it will most likely be my dish of choice. And mashed sweet potatoes are never complete without toasted marshmallows! Aaaand I don't like cake but I love pie, so pretty much it was the perfect birthday meal. They sang happy birthday and afterwards we got bundled up and went to play Escape Room a few blocks from where we live. Every time I have gone to one of these I say "Man, I would love to do this with Ethan sometime. He would have so much fun, and be suuuper good at this." so getting to do this while he was around was like what I have always been dreaming of? haha. anyways. Escape Room, is pretty simple, yet very difficult. The premise is that you get locked in a series of rooms, and you need to search the room for keys and solve puzzles to be able to open the doors and "escape". The one we did this time was county jail themed, and they handcuffed us and locked us in cells! It was really fun, and to top it all off... WE WON!!! so that was amazing!!!  

After escape room, we came back to the house and Steven gave me a few birthday presents, a pair of pants I really wanted but decided not to get (he remembered and went back to buy them), a book I mentioned really wanting to read called "Mormon Feminism: Essential Writings" and a beautiful video he had made, compiling a series of birthday messages he had asked for some of my family and friends to send him. I loved it! It was just what I've been needing, being so far from so many people we love.

We decided we wanted to play card games with Ethan the night before he left. We got out the game we were sent for Christmas from our friend Sam. Its called Adventure Time Fluxx, and its kind of confusing at first, but once you get into the swing of it its super fun! You play by pretty much changing the rules until they work to let you win. The rules are constantly changing, which can make for some pretty sneaky surprising wins! You should definitely try it out, we had a blast thwarting each other's plans haha.


Since Ethan got here, the weather has been exceptional! the sidewalks have been clear, but there has been snow slowly falling and such. Magical! Picturesque! But the day he was leaving, I walked outside to... This. Slush-megedon. and its pretty much gone back to the norm since then. More snow fell, melted into slush, and then froze into rock hard lumpy 4 inch thick ice over all the sidewalks, with new fluffy snow masking this treacherous terrain beneath with fluffy lies.

So a couple funny things happened Thursday during our ward temple trip. (...not something you get to say too often!) We got a late start to our day, meaning we both skipped breakfast. Steven's lunch was insufficient, and then we had to leave right after work to get to the temple, and weren't able to grab dinner first. When we got to the temple, I realised I didn't have a recommend in my temple bag. Luckily since It was a ward temple night, the stake president happened to be there, and gave me a temple recommend interview in the only free room... the coat closet! haha it was pretty funny. By the time they had gotten me all sorted, the endowment session had filled up. Steven and I went to do sealings with a few other couples, and i guess the air conditioning was broken? the room was SO hot. I started seeing Steven sway, and then he made a face like he was going to be sick. he was sweaty and ashen faced. all of a sudden he just got up and said "im sorry, I have to leave, I think I'm going to be sick." and ran out! Poor guy, we think it was a combo of low blood sugar and the heat in that room. As soon as we got some food in him (thanks Jason and Gabrielle!) he was much better.

I had two girlfriends over on Friday night, and we tried to be productive but the evening quickly devolved into girl talk and It was so nice! Its been too long since I had a good girls night. Hopefully there will be more to follow. Steven spent the evening with a band in need of a drummer! There have been a few who have contacted him, but this is the first one he liked the sound of the music. Hopefully it works out, Steven would love the chance/reason to play more regularly!

I ended up working on Saturday again, things are getting tight at work but not too bad. After work I met up with Steven at Devin and Amber's place. We ate a ton of snacks and watched a movie. Pretty standard evening for us at this point, but after such a long day, I probably would have wanted to cancel on literally anyone but the Mendenhalls.

Anyways, its been a long, but wonderful week! There was so much more that happened, but I feel like that's a good enough taste of the highlights for this post. Thanks for all the birthday love this week you guys, it definitely felt special!



Chapter 19: Barbegazi and the rest

Honestly, we completely forgot to make a post last week. Sorry y'all! We'll do our best to get this working again. So last week was pretty tame, the most exciting thing being Barbegazi. The word Barbegazi refers to a mythical french and Swiss creature and the words Barbegazi come from is something like "barbe gelée" or "frozen beard". Its like a bearded man/Sasquatch on skis? ...That's also blue? ...Clearly we were confused about it haha. So its pretty much just a winter activity festival. We heard about it the day before we went, and thought it could be fun. Turns out, it was a super high budget event that had only a fraction of the expected attendance, so that was awesome! Short lines, and lots to do. There was a McDonalds cart giving out free hot chocolate, big fire pits, arm wrestling stations, wood cutting competitions, tree tossing, and lastly and most importantly... an obstacle race! The best part? IT WAS ALL FREE.

Steven and I went with Amber and Devin, and the boys were just so jazzed about it. Stevens got a video to put here about it, it was a blast. Amber and I felt we were best serving as camera people, because of how slick the icy snow was. The boys got kinda banged up, and Steven got a bloody nose, but it was worth it.

We went and saw a couple movies the past two weeks, which always makes for a good week. Steven found that he loves quinoa salads, and consequentially we ate a ton of quinoa haha. I like them too, but Steven was suuuper excited, because those are the sorts of things adults get excited about I suppose. quinoa. salads. Steven has been killing it at work lately. He works for a company that kind of loans him out to other companies they have under their wing. Most of them have loved his work, and been really easy for him to access what they want. But there was one company, which was a little trickier. This week they pitched an ad campaign and Steven delivered some videos to them for it and they lost it! it was an amazing response and he was so proud. He feels like hes getting the hang of their style now and what they like with their branding which is really rewarding!

In other news, this Saturday we spent a few hours watching a live stream of the Women's March on Washington. When we first tuned in, there was a man speaking and my first thought was "of course. women's march, and yet a man is the speaker. of course." but after he finished speaking, a woman got up, and She was intelligent, powerful, and articulate. Then another woman got up, and she too was formidable. Then another, and another. after about an hour and a dozen women and three men, I thought, "This is how men feel, like ALL of the time." I got really emotional and felt a commitment to be one of those women. I want to be one of those women in my community, in my work and in my church. At work, there are more women than I expected, and more women in positions of power than I expected. I have been working on a show that has powerful women in it. It has been a thrill and a blessing to be able to look up to such women and know that I don't need to be the first. I can walk the path that many have blazed for me.

Speaking of work, This has been a wonderful two weeks. I have finally feel like I have settled into a pattern. I was feeling like I could take on more work, so I asked for more. I was given a little, and a little more and then all at once my work load was doubled, but I held up under it! I hope I can make myself indispensable by the end of the year. I want to be the person, that when something needs to be done, and done right, you ask Heather to do it.

I don't usually come up with resolutions per se, but I for the past few years I have picked a word to focus on trying to live better through that year. Last year I wanted to be more Engaged in my endeavours, the year before I wanted to be more Disciplined. This year, my word is Commitment. Working on my commitment to my relationships with the people I love, being more committed to excellence, more committed to the things I love and making time for them. I love this practice of choosing a word because at different times in the year it means different things to me. For instance, I chose the word Engaged last year, because I wanted to work on how I scattered I was feeling. I wanted to be more engaged at work, and later in the year when Steven proposed that word took on a very different meaning. That's the most obvious example but the word does gain meaning through this year and I highly recommend it. I would love to hear if you have any words you would like to choose to focus on this year!